Roseanne
David Letterman
What do these people have in common? They say what is on their minds and make no
apologies for that. They have their opinions and their beliefs and are strong enough to sick by them despite the potential consequences and public fallout. They sometimes get revered and jeered for it, but they still make no apologies. How many of us can say the same thing?
Do you ever feel as if you have to apologize for the things you say? Lets say for instance you disagree with somebody's position a particular issue. You speak up and you are considered trouble. I cannot tell you how many times I have worked for a company that has a "vision" and expects everyone to be robotic and do the same thing and agree and say "Yes". Yet, when the two or three that do speak up have questions or disagree, they are politely quieted or silenced and then considered trouble by the powers that be. From that moment on, certain co-workers and friends are afraid to be seen with you because you just truly spoke your opinion and had questions. You may not have necessarily disagreed but you just had a question, still you are considered "trouble" and a "rebel".
This does not just apply to our professional lives but in our private lives as well. Often times we have family members who cause us strife and we have those who take advantage of others or disrespect others on a daily basis. Yet when we want to call the behavior out, we are again politely silenced or told to "not make waves" because people around you don't want the confrontation. You talk about the situation that the person is causing and you are considered "negative" you are supposed to accept the situation as it is. Suddenly, you are questioning your thoughts, actions, and belief systems because people around you are uncomfortable with your opinions because they challenge a "system" or a behavior that has been allowed for so many years.
The question is, Why should you feel like that? Especially when the ones around you feel the same way but unlike you, they are too afraid to speak up and speak out and cannot understand why you feel like you have to. Often times we are told "It won't do any good.", "That's how it has always been.", "You just have to let them be." "You will just cause trouble." "Do it to keep the peace." How is calling anyone out on their crap causing trouble? If it is someone who you are close to or love, it should be out of love that you try to help them out. If you feel like something at work could be better, and you are a vital part of that organization, why can't you speak up?
They say that once you get older and over thirty and especially if you over forty, you begin to really stop caring what others think and begin to really speak out on what is is irking you and what is irritating you. I guess that is true because for me, I have had enough! I am not longer for giving people passes to continue to act in a way that is detrimental to themselves and to others.
Inevitably, those reading will be wondering, "Who is he talking about?", "Who rattled his cage?" Well to satisfy that question, I am not talking about any ONE person in particular or any ONE situation. This has just been something on my mind for a long time. So many people are given passes for bad behavior because we are told that the Christ like thing is to have a bleeding heart and have compassion. While yes we are to have compassion, and we are to empathize, it is time out for continuing to allow the behavior to hinder our professional, personal, and spiritual development. It is time for a lot of people to grow up! Make no apologies for being irritated with this mess that is going on right now. It's time to start speaking out. Holding it in will only make it worse. Now as always, its good to use discretion. Don't become the person you are talking about. Don't start raining on others parades and being a Negative Nelly to someone who is trying to do good things and you just don't agree. That is not what this about. There is a difference.
In the spirit of love...
CG
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