Social Media Intervention 2015

Well the time has come again! It is time to do another social media intervention. It is much needed. This primarily pertains to Facebook as it allows for the most sharing and posting. I have to speak on it, do not get mad because I am saying what you are afraid to say. Here goes...



1. The Haters Post: There is always that one person who stay saying that they have haters and people hating on them mainly because they trying to make this money. Example" "Theze bytches be hating on me. I gotz no time 4 them. I'm about making this money." (Insert picture of person holding up a wad of cash). First of all, who is hating on you exactly? The only people that can say they have haters while they are out there making that money are people like Bill Gates, Oprah, Tyler Perry, Jay Z, Donald Trump, and so on. But the big difference is people like Bill Gates and Oprah have no need to brag about their money because they do not have too. Who exactly is hating on your income tax check that you just cashed or your $200 check? I am happy you have some money, but if someone is "hating' on you for that, they must not have a whole lot.

2. The Challenge My Faith Post: Over the last year when I scroll through my Newsfeed, I will see a picture of Jesus and a picture of Satan with the caption: "Love Jesus click like and Share." Love Satan. Keep Scrolling." STOP IT!! My faith and salvation is not contingent on a social media status or clicking a button. That is so ridiculous. Who comes up with this stuff? There are others out there like this one, but this is the one that I am seeing most often.

3. The Money Blessing Post : Along with #2 above, there is another post that says something like "Share this post and you will be blessed. God will bring an abundance of wealth into your home." Really? What bible are you reading? I did not realize God was genie. For any of those people that have shared or liked these post, have you quit your job yet from all that $$$ that magically came out of nowhere or did you go into work as if nothing happened?

4. The Constant Turn Up Post: Now do not get me wrong, I love a good turn up. I have a few drinks with friends and will occasionally post that with discretion. However, every post will not be about that. If every post you have is about how drunk you are getting and how proud you are of that, you might have a problem. I am just saying.

5. The Shameless Begging: This is the post from somebody that is saying how much they need a man or a woman and talking about how much they want to be married. Okay, that is fine but are you thinking someone is going to reply back to you and say, "Yes I want the same. Let's get married!" That requires action.

6. I Want A Response/Fishing Post: This is the post that is clearly wanting to elicit some type of response from your friends, followers, and so on. This is saying something like "I am so angry right now.." "If only I had.." "Sick of this shit.." Of course you are wanting someone to respond back with "What is wrong?" Be direct. Tell us what you mean.

7. The Maya Angelou Post: This is the post in which the person tries to be so deep and so complex it comes off totally confusing. First off the post is like five paragraph essay. What are you talking about? Why are you trying to be so deep? This is a social media page, not a poetry slam. Keep your status updates brief. That is what blogs are for. We are all guilty of it from time to time but some people are just too much.

8. I Love Weed Post. Okay, we get it. Smoking weed makes you happy. But if every post is a picture of you rolling it up or it laid on the table. You might have problem.

9. Hashtag Overkill Post: A hashtag is meant to summarize your point. However, there a few people that continue to miss the point of what a hashtag is. Here is an example of an appropriate use of hashtags. "Going out tonight with my friends to this club. Much needed after this week." #turnup #party #goodfriends." See all of those hashtags compliment that status update. Or if you post a picture of you and your friends out and about and you used those three hashtags, everyone would know what the picture is about. Now unfortunately, there are some that still have not quite grasped the concept of what hashtags are. Here is an example. "I am at this store buying groceries for the week for my kids." #Fashion #Turndownforwhat #Drive #Love" What do any of those have to do with your status? We are confused. Also your status update should only have 3-5 hashtags per status update and you should only do it sporadically. Not every post.

10. The Why Do We Care Post : This is the one where you show your child blowing his or her nose and snot coming out. The picture of your child on the toilet or making a mess in the house. While I understand that you are happy about your children and you love them very much. We really do not need to know everything that they do. Keep in mind that one day your kids will be teenagers and adults and they are not going to appreciate this public humiliation. I am so glad social media was not around during my childhood. For me it was instant Poloroids and photo albums. Several that have been lost and are packed away in boxes. These kids today do not stand a chance. Also if every post is about how much you love your significant other, I have to wonder who are you really trying to convince. When is the last time you actually told the person instead of posting it on social media? Ijs..

11. The Who is The Parent Post: Pictures of you turning up with your kids are not cute. Smoking weed with your child? Getting drunk with your child? Dressing ratchet with your child? Then you have the audacity to say "I wish people would stop judging me!" Now I like a good drink with my parents, I have been way past the age of consent but there are limits. They are after all my parents.

12. The No Fact Check Post: Be careful when you share a news story or someone's status update. There are a lot of satirical websites out there who are good at fooling people A few are the The Onion, TMZLive.com, and dailycurrant just to name a few. If you have a large following this decreases your credibility. I have made the mistake before. If the story looks really unbelievable and dumb, verify it first. Snopes.com is a great source for debunking these.

13. I Eat Healthy and Want to Prove It Post: You are on a diet and this awesome. We support your wanting to live a healthier lifestyle. However, there is too much of a good thing even when it comes to dieting. We really do not see every healthy meal you are eating, or every time you work out in the gym. While there is room for improvement for all of us in this area, your preachy way of coming down on people for not eating right is not going to help. Again, kudos for the change and we support you. But there are limits just like everything else. Have some variety in your social media.

14. The Parental Advisory Explicit Status Update: When I scroll through my News feed, sometimes I will see a status that is so vulgar, so disgusting, I cringe. The sad part of it is that fact that is not a teenager but an adult over 21 posting an update full of curse words, or posting a picture that is nasty, distasteful, and offensive. At some point, I need you to grow up. We all love good jokes and humor but some people take it too far.

15. The OK That is Too Personal Post: For all of us there should be a level of mystery about us. There should be somethings that are kept under lock and key. Family drama, squabbles among friends, relationship woes just to name a few. Yet every now and then people will engage in a social media war where they will go back and forth on their pages. Some tag people who they have beef with. This is cowardly and much like the note writing we did back in middle school and junior high. If you have an issue with someone, address it with them directly not on your page. Also posting about your relationship going sour in some ways is a turn off to potential mates. Use discretion. It is okay to talk in generalities but when you start calling people out on social media, you are asking for trouble. Also we do not need to know you "you just took a shit that was so good." or "I have been throwing up all night." This is too much information. We do not need all the visuals...


Sorry if this offends some, but if it offends then well maybe you know it is the truth low key. Keep in mind potential employers go to your social media pages to a get a glimpse of the person they are interested in hiring. If your page if full of obscene language, drama, nasty pictures, misspelled words, drug use, and excessive alcohol, this will turn off employers. How you do your social media page will give them a glimpse of who will be working in their office. Nobody wants to have a drama starting, drunk, high, overly sensitive, attention-seeking unprofessional worker in their midst. Sad part is you will not even know they are doing this. You could be the best employee this side of heaven but if your social media contradicts that, you are screwed. Also you could also be scaring off potential mates as well. I know when I meet someone I go to their social media. If is filled with all the stuff from above, I exit stage left.

Take this in love folks, until next time.

CG2

The Kardashian In Your Life

So everyday that we turn on the news and look on the Internet we are flooded with The Kardashians, Real Housewives of Wherever, Survivor, and whoever else popular culture inflicts on us for the time being. We get annoyed; we throw shade yet we still watch (well some of us) we cannot help it. It is like a train wreck or a car accident that we have seen a thousand times but yet we cannot help but glance. This is what we call the Kardashians and reality stars. While we get annoyed, they are entertaining to some. But if we really think about it, in our personal lives, every one of us has a Kardashian in our day-to-day life and perhaps even in our inner circle, in our families, in our workplace, and our professional organization whatever the case may be, we all know a Kardashian. We shake our heads at them, we laugh, we get annoyed, but at the end of the day we cannot help but watch.

So how to do you know if you have a Kardashian in your life? The criteria are really simple if you think about it.

The Kardashian Personality is broken down into several types.

The Drama Queen/King: the person whose whole life is nothing but drama, nothing but self-loathing, self-indulgence. Their social media reads like some type of personal diary. Nothing is off limits. They think their social media is a personal confessional. Either they are posting pictures of doing drugs, turning up, always thinking they got haters, they are combative, defensive and aggressive. Their page is filled with so much obscene language, misspelled words, and incoherent mumbo jumbo, but everyday you find yourself going to the page just to see what the story will be. It is definite entertainment no matter how ratchet it is. They are posting for a reaction. They “wish a muthafucka would” say something to do them. As soon as someone does, “they got a hater.” On the flip of that you have the introspective social media person that wants to post a 3-5 paragraph essay on their life (clearly something meant for a blog) it is also misspelled and incoherent but at the same time entertaining. If the person does not have social media the words they speak mirror all of what you would see on social media.

Example: "I be'z having so many haters. That is OK because I shakez theze bytches off like dayundruff OK? Iz mean I'm a do what I do. And you's best bes believin. I am bout making this money."

And in case you were wondering, I made that one up myself. But you can find several status updates on social media that mirror this one. First of all, who is hating? Why are we hating? And what money are you making? Only someone like Bill Gates, Oprah, Tyler Perry, and even Donald Trump can brag about making money in the midst of being hated on. I'm just saying...

Who is hating on you cause you got your income tax refund or just cashed your paycheck?

Straight entertainment.


The Self-Absorbed: This is the type of person that is so into their own world they have know idea how ridiculous they are. They dress weird for attention. They post videos that make no sense, their status updates make no sense, they call themselves by names given to high officials, and when they are talking to you, but are not listening to a word you are saying. They live their lives everyday like a camera is in front of them. The sad part of it is they are so delusional they really have no idea as to what is going on around them or even when they are being made fun of.
Example:

Shade Thrower: “Bro that suit you have on looks like an optical illusion.”
Recipient: Oh you are saying I look like an illusion. Yeah man I have been known to mystify people..!” Thanks!

At first you think maybe they are just playing along but then sadly you realize that they are really thinking you are giving them a compliment. They are so stuck in their own reality that they do not even realize that you are throwing shade. All you can do is shake your head. This is a train wreck personality. They are so stuck in their own world they do not even get it. Like some reality stars, they will do anything for attention. Any attention is good attention. If they mismatch dress, post some incoherent crap, or post some weird video it is to elicit a response and a reaction. Just like the Kardashian this person may have a number of followers on social media. However, their delusion lets them think that it is because they feel the world needs his/her greatness, but in reality for a lot of the people following them it is for entertainment.
This person really does not have a lot of friends, because they are too self-absorbed to really be a good friend to anyone. In their minds, you are in their world. They are the star, you are just a supporting cast member. In reality that person is the only on in the show, and that is it.


The Crazy Drunk/High Person: This is the person that has some tendencies as the drama person. When they get drunk or high their personality is on level 10. They dance, they sing, they go crazy. You have to usher them out the club, make sure they get in the car but all the while you have that camera phone taping because tomorrow it is going to be great entertainment.

So while these reality stars can be very annoying and are famous for being famous, in reality we all know someone similar that could have his/her own reality show. There are numerous personality traits and characteristics that fit the bill. Sadly, they are entertaining but in small doses. Sometimes it gets to be too much, but then when we need it, we tune back in.

So who is the Kardashian in your life?

On A Garbage Can Lid: How You Present Yourself

WARNING: Warning, I am about to quote Billy Cosby (Doctor Heathcliff Huxtable).
So if that bothers you, I would advise you to, as Dennis Edward would say, “Don’t look any further.”


Not much from the 8th season of The Cosby Show stands out like previous seasons as the show kind if went past its prime days. But what I always remember is the speech that Bill Cosby’s alter ego the iconic Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable made to his daughter Vanessa and his future son in law Dabnis Brickey. The season opener episode deals with the after affects of Cliff and Clair Huxtable dealing with the shocking news of middle daughter Vanessa suddenly announcing she is engaged without the family ever meeting the guy and the second jolt is finding out that they have been engaged for six months. Clearly, The Huxtables were in shock. Dr. Huxtable proceeds to use to me at least one of the most profound monologues I have ever heard. Forgive the length but stay with me. You need to get the gist of the entire speech. Trust me…
o Cliff: You, uh, probably come from a very fine, fine family with great morals and whatnot, and our daughter, regardless of what she has done, comes from what we feel is a great family also. And, you'll just have to forgive us because we just don't like you.
Dabnis: I'm sorry...
Cliff: Well, no no no no, it's not for you to be sorry because, see, you are not to blame. See, if you want to blame anybody, blame Vanessa. What I'm trying to say is, I don't want you to leave this house saying that we don't like you because you are a maintenance man, or in charge of maintenance, or whatever. I mean, you could right now, sitting there, be a banker and we would not like you AT ALL.
(Dabnis and Vanessa look crestfallen)
Cliff: It's the way that...you have a favorite food?
Dabnis: Yes, sir, what you had here was fine. I especially enjoyed the fish sticks.
Cliff: No, forget the fish sticks. Do you have a favorite food, something you really LOVE?
Dabnis: Oh yeah, on occasion, I enjoy a nice, juicy steak.
Cliff: Steak! Steak, there you go! You got a steak. Just imagine you got a porterhouse and no white lines in it at all. Now, what would you like to go along with it?
Dabnis: Uh, some crispy potatoes!
Cliff: No problem! Now, you got mushrooms, you like your mushrooms.
Dabnis: Yes, sir.
Cliff: You can smell it, can't you? Smell the potatoes?
Dabnis: Yes, sir!
Cliff: Smell the mushrooms!
Dabnis: Yes, sir!
Cliff: Sauteed!
Dabnis: Yes, sir!
Cliff: MMM, boy! Huh?
Dabnis: Yes, sir!
Cliff: All right, now, I'm going to present it to you, right? I go over now...I don't get a plate, I take the garbage can lid, and I turn it upside down! After taking it off the garbage can, I take your steak, your potatoes, your sautéed mushrooms, and I give it to you! Not too appetizing, is it? It's in the presentation. THAT'S how she brought you over here, "on a garbage can lid"! (Taken from www.tv.com)

Marinate on that for a moment. Really let what Dr. Hutxtable said sink in. That speech has stayed with me for years. How many of you have presented yourselves on a garbage can lid? You have something really important to say, you are fired up, you are passionate but your delivery leaves something to be desired. How about you are really angry at a friend for something they did or did not do, and before you take the time to think about how you will address the situation, you let your anger get the best of you and fly off the handle like a madman and curse and say offensive things, now the person who has offended you is angry themselves and did not hear a word that you said. The content was lost because the delivery was awful.
You often see this at work with supervisors and other leaders or even in your professional organizations, people present themselves on a garbage can lid. They come off condescending, patronizing, or simply insulting. Their valid points have become invalidated because of the way they carried themselves. Maybe you have some great ideas to present at your meeting, but when someone else has an idea or critiques yours you shut them down, disregard, or do not listen. How in the world do you expect them to hear your point now? The sad part is your point maybe completely on point, but because you got in your own way, or presented yourself on a garbage can lid, your message was lost.
Loved ones can often be guilty of this as well. They may have some “constructive criticism” to offer but they come off as superior, or a know it all or judgmental. Who would want to listen to someone like that? I cannot tell you how many times I have tuned people out because of several garbage can lid factors. There points may have been valid, they may have been coming from a loving place but because of how it was delivered, it was lost in translation. You really should take your time and think about what you want to say before you say it.

Here is a checklist:
1. Confronting a friend or loved one in the heat of your anger without thinking.
2. Not speaking with confidence in front of a crowd. Looking down at the ground.
3. Using inappropriate language in a professional environment or speech.
4. Constantly creating drama on social media: Putting your personal business on blast day after day.
5. Yelling, belittling, or berating (at) a coworker or subordinate and claiming your validated to so because of your position or knowledge at work.
6. Getting defensive or taking it personal when someone challenges or questions your idea.
7. Speaking with too much arrogance or confidence during a presentation. Having an over exaggerated sense of self during the presentation.
8. Coming off holier than thou or judgmental in regards to your faith or witnessing. We have seen this a lot lately. There are people who are detesting certain sins but it is okay to commit others. Often times the people you are trying to witness too are aware of this, so they are not taking you seriously.
9. Using status, title or position to get your way or get others to see your view.
10. Constantly getting in people’s business or being nosey even when you are genuinely concerned.
11. Not being fully prepared for an interview: arriving late, speaking over interviewer, being defensive in your answers. You may be the best candidate ever and the best thing to happen to company but if you do any of those things it will not matter. You have already failed the interview, you have wasted your time and theirs. Even though they are interviewing you still (because that is the professional thing to do) in the interviewers mind, they have already crossed you off the list for not just this position but for future ones too.


Do you find yourself on this “garbage can” list? I am sure at some point, we have all found ourselves on this list. The key to remember is how you present yourself is super important. You do not want how your present yourself to mess up the public’s perception of you. It could make or break you on an interview for a job, an audition, friendships, and so much more.
Throw away that garbage can lid!

I Do Not Have Time

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. – unknown..

I ready this a few months back and it really struck a cord with me. The last few weeks have been very reflective for me. I have been dealing with some behaviors and treatment from people that I am really just no longer going to accept. Hopefully it inspires you to write your own.

I no longer have the patience for:
People who are rude and inconsiderate to others and boast about it. Bullies especially adult ones. There is really no reason to be a bully. I have talked about this at length.
People who act differently when they get around certain people. This is beyond annoying. I should not and will not tolerate someone acting differently for other reasons This has been something that has been eye opening indeed. I like to think I treat all my friends when the are around as if they are of equal meaning in my life. If I am not, I want to hear about it.
If I have angered you in some type of way or have offended you the best way to deal with it is to address it with me. I do not respond well to you giving me the silent treatment, rolling your eyes, or having someone come to me on your behalf. I have been out of high school for a long time. I have zero patience for people who want others to chose sides in arguments therefore putting people in the middle. This type of behavior is typical of teenagers but not adults. Please grow up. If we are friends, you need to come to me and talk about what is on your mind. Simply not talking or refusing to be accessible because you are in your feelings is not going to get you anywhere.
As friends and family members, we should make time for each other. I have grown weary of the excuses. Saying I am busy to people who supposedly mean a lot to you at some point becomes an excuse that no longer holds water. I get it, I do it. I am holding myself accountable too. So many loved ones are passing on, so many things happen. We have to make the time.
I am at a point where I purging friends and changing people from friends to acquaintances. Friendship is two-fold. Communication involves both parties. At 38 I am becoming more picky about those who I call friend and those who I let in my inner circle. I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and I am learning to accept that. What I do not accept are people who continue to pretend that that they are my friends when they are not. It should not take you two weeks to respond back to a text message, unless you are in a coma.
We are too old for that.
I no longer wish to associate with people who smile in my face then berate me when I turn away. If you do not like me, do not fake it. You are wasting my time and wasting yours.
I do not have patience for people who do not see the issue of racism and injustice are still very much alive and very much of an issue in today’s society. If you do not understand what the issues are, then you are part of the problem. If you are tired of hearing about race relations, injustice and tolerance, I question if you are one who condones the issues that continue to oppress people of color.
At almost 38 years old, I no longer feel the need to justify, explain, or apologize for the choices in my personal life. That includes where I live, who I hang out with, and anything else that does not directly affect you.
You have no right to feel superior because of your social status, your marital status and family dynamic. Life happens and in any given moment, something can happen to change that status. Never feel you are above or beyond anyone.
Family is everything to me and always will be. However, it does not justify behaviors that are not appropriate and immature and being family does not give anyone a right to hurt others in the family nor does it mean I cannot address the situation or cut you off if it continues. Love does not equal inner circle.

I do not have time for people who continue to play the victim or use their personal situations to justify their negative behaviors. Your situation should not define you. Yet you continue to allow it to do so.
II do not have tolerance for people who have no sense of humor and refuse to laugh and are always in serious mode. Laughter is awesome. Having said that though,
people who use jokes as a way to be mean-spirited is not funny or cute. Yes you tease the ones you love but there is a line. Saying things in the form of a joke to really get your point across is cowardly. There is truth in jest.
Wrong is wrong. It bugs me when we don’t hold the ones nearest to us accountable.
I do not have time for people who live in a Fool’s Paradise, thinking if you have material possessions, have a wife or husband, or in a relationship, your problems are solved. Looking for others to complete you when you cannot complete yourself is asking for trouble.
Arrogant people are ridiculous. Enough said.
Self-absorbed people are beyond annoying as well. At this point I really do not have time for you at this point. Continue to live in your own little world, leave me out of it.
I do not have patience for people who discourage others from pursuing their dreams. Just because you were too afraid to step out and because you have grown complacent, does not give you the right to step on others who are bold enough to try.
Do not confuse my kindness for weakness. I refuse to apologize for being a nice person. The fact that being nice is not favorable is disturbing to me. Nice guys finish last only to those who are use to being treated badly.
People who suffer from entitlement should exit stage left. Nobody owes you anything.

Just Keep It 100

As I get older, there are a lot of things that I no longer have time for or accept in my life. With age comes wisdom and discernment (for most people) and you know when things are not legit or better yet when people are not legit or in your corner.
If you are a working professional like I am, our schedules are packed and tight. It seems like sometimes days and weeks run together and before you know it is the weekend. Your personal time is very limited so whom you choose to spend it with is a very careful well thought out process. Therefore, you want to spend that time with people who genuinely love and care for you, who make as much effort to spend time with you as you would.

The problem is that as you get older you are able to decipher who is genuine and who is just putting on lip service and spewing out tired compliments about you every time they see you, yet their actions conflict and contradict that. You have those people you meet in settings maybe at work or through mutual friends who begin to call you “friend” and say all the right things, “Let’s hang out sometime. Let’s have a drink.” Or whatever they say. Of course, it’s always nice to have people who want to hang out with you. The reality of the situation is that some of these people have no intention of ever making time to hang out with you. You begin to wonder is it timing? Maybe schedules just contradict, maybe this maybe that, but the reality of the matter is that ultimately if this person genuinely liked you, they would make the effort at some point, or you would make the effort either way it goes. Sometimes it’s not just people you meet, but people who have been in your life for years and years, which is a harder pill to swallow.

As I get older, I do not have time for people who continue to do this. Do not get me wrong, I have friends who are down for the cause whenever. I am a busy man myself so I get the struggle. It is hard to often make time especially when you do not have a lot of it. So you want to spend that time with people who genuinely feel about you as you feel about them. What I think it comes down to is that ultimately some people just don’t like the person I am but they are too cowardly to admit it. They do not want to hurt your feelings. But what is not realized is that it’s actually worse to continue to put up the charade or the façade. Hey I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK. As I get closer to 40 that does not bother me. I have made peace with it. What I do have a problem with is you pretending we are friends, but your actions contradict that.
Honestly speaking I am not the type of guy that talks about the number of women I have slept with, or eat, sleep and breathe sports (even though I do enjoy them) or looking to get laid every time I go out, so for some guys who are in those categories they find my personality different and maybe offensive to them or just see me as a weird person that they don’t even get to know and that’s okay just be upfront about it.

Some of you maybe reading this, and might be thinking “Who is he talking about?” “Is this about me?” The answer simply is if the shoe fits, then put it on. It is not just about one person but a few people. It is also an accountability check for myself. Am I saying this to people, that I have no intention of ever hanging with? Let me know waste people’s time either. Also, this can be applied to family as well as sometimes some of your cousins and other relatives can be in this category. They never have the time for you, even though they say they love you.

Now there would have been a time in my life where if people did not like me or want to make time for me, my feelings would be hurt. At this stage in the game, I am not really bothered about that. What does bother me is you pretending as the famous quote goes, “Aint nobody got time for that!”

So if you are one of those people who continue to not have the time to hang or just do not respond, then keep it 100. No harm no foul.

Life goes on…

More Random Observations

1. Why in this day and age that some people still do not wash their hands in the bathroom? Is it laziness? An allergy to soap? A religious reason? Can somebody who is bold enough to say they don’t wash their hands give me a reason?

2. If some of these people would put more efforts into completing a job application or looking into a legitimate job then looking for creative ways to file a lawsuit or hack into someone’s bank account, they would be an unstoppable beast. Use your powers for good instead of evil.

3. People who do not watch their kids in the store are the first person to file a lawsuit if their kids get hurt due to their negligence. The irony….

4. So you say you are tired of hearing about Ferguson and issues of racism and other world events? Imagine living these events. Sorry someone’s misfortune and tragedy is inconveniencing your perfect day.

5. ABC is killing it right now with their dramas. Scandal, American Crime, Secrets and Lies, Revenge, shall I go on? NBC is trying but ABC is unstoppable right now.

6. So I finally caught up with the rest of America and watched all of Empire. Great show. Its like Dallas for music. For those that complain that it perpetuates stereotypes…(yawn)….get over it. It’s a television show. Does Nashville on ABC perpetuate country stereotypes? Have a seat haters! Speaking of which Lil Bow Wow says he would never be on Empire because of its stereotypes. This from the guy who did Lottery Ticket... as you were.

7. Why do some people keep posting on Facebook that they need to be in a relationship but they spend all day and night on their computers?

8. So you don’t have a job and not working but you keep bragging about all of the items you have brought and then in the same sentence complain about how broke you are?

9. Maybe Nona Gaye should ask Lee Daniels or Shonda Rhimes for a part on one of their shows. It’s clear that she needs a job and some exposure.

10. So the BBC Radio is not playing Madonna’s newest single because they are trying to reach a younger demographic? Basically they are saying she is too old (subtle shade). Keep in mind Lady Gaga, Rhianna, Miley, and others all try to emulate Madonna. Regardless or weather or not your feelings on Madonna this could easily be Paul McCartney, Elton John, or Stevie Wonder. Think about that. Our legends are being passed over for things like “truffle butter” and “purple cush”. Sighs…

11. I really wish the Kardashians would go somewhere, anywhere. I mean it’s been way longer than 15 minutes.

12. I feel like Kanye is trying to make up for some of his bad PR. does he have an Olivia Pope in his life?

13. Where has Angela Bassett and Kimberly Elise been? I think its time Shonda develop a series for them too. OR I would love for her to make an appearance on How To Get Away with Murder next season playing Analise (Viola Davis) sister or sorority sister or something with a deep dark secret. Maybe Kimberly Elise can play Analise daughter that was given away for adoption Can you imagine them three sharing a screen? Powerful.

14. In addition to #13. I think Michael Eely would be a great addition to the gladiator team on Scandal. We need a new gladiator. They never replaced Columbus Short.

15. Kevin Hart should host Oscars 2016. How do we make this happen? OR maybe Jimmy Kimmel, Jimmy Fallon and Ellen co-hosting, wouldn’t’ that be fun? Neil Patrick Harris I’m a fan but no not again.

16. Monique…Monique…Monique, love you but you need to have a seat. You didn’t capitalize on your fantastic year from Precious because you felt you did not have to. Now you are blaming others for your situation. In Hollywood, you have to strike while the iron is hot. I am still hoping for a comeback though. She does have talent.


17. I hate the social media posts that base your salvation on a particular social media status. For example “Love Jesus = Click Like. Love Satan = Keep Scrolling.” Who comes up with that? I did not realize my salvation was contingent on a Facebook status.

18. If you are over 18 you should stop posting naked pictures, pictures of drugs, and excessive profanity on your social media. It’s not appropriate at any age but at least we can give the babies the excuse of the ignorance of their age. What’s your excuse?

19. I get that you like smoking weed, I get it. But do we really need to have thirty posts a day on your page about it? We already know you are going to smoke it. We don’t need to be reminded of it every single day. Legal or not you are still going to do it. Stop acting like you being deprived of smoking cush is like being deprived of air, water, and food. Can we say addicted? Again you are going to smoke it anyway.

20. I hate when people try to be so deep, so philosophical. Everything has to be perplexing and thought provoking. Some people take themselves way too seriously. Reading some people’s status/tweets/posts are like going through a Maya Angelou book.

21. In addition to #20 some people have their first up in the air for the wrong reasons. Let’s look at the bigger picture in some situations. Yeah I said it.

22. I just found out what “truffle butter” is about. Just when I think we cannot sink any lower. I really feel for the youth of today if these are their “artist”. Very inappropriate. Parents check your kids ITunes and social media. But then again some of these parents are right there singing it along with their kids.

23. Any man that is not the head of his household in his own house deep down is not respected. Just saying. Not saying be a caveman but the role of the man in the house is slowly diminishing (not talking about single mothers or houses without fathers). I’ve seen so many examples where that role is being diminished on television, in popular culture. Where is the father /husband like James Evans from Good Times? Why is that not celebrated anymore? The role of the father and husband is to be respected. That’s biblical.

24. The only two people I recognize on this season of Dancing With The Stars is Suzanne Somers and Patti Labelle. Rumor Willis is a celebrity? I know she is Demi and Bruce’s daughter but it’s Dancing With The Stars not Dancing with Star’s Offspring’s. Has she been in movies? Maybe I missed them. The Bachelor is a celebrity? What exactly is the criteria?

25. Raven Symone might I suggest you watch School Daze...especially pay attention to Furious Styles at the end.. WAKE UP!!!!

26. And to this very day I still dream of candy-coated raindrops. It’s the same my candy rain. (smile)….



Be Blessed. Much Love.
CG2

I Can't Take You Seriously Right Now...

Just when I think people cannot get any crazier, some fools come along and surpass my expectations….

What a crazy week this has been. There has been a lot going in in the world around me. Particularly in the news and in my daily life, and you all know that I am an avid observer of everything around me. I am very sensitive to my surroundings and to the things that people to and say and of course this brings me to the reason I am here. I love the title above because I have been saying it all week. It is fitting. It has been really hard to take people seriously. The world this week has been filled with all types of things that leave you scratching your head and throwing up your hands.

Let me start off with The Gaye Family. Now everyone that knows me knows I am the biggest old school music lover. I have two albums of Marvin Gaye’s hanging up on my wall in my house. Marvin was a game changer. The “What’s Going On” album set the standard for the concept album. Of course “Got To Give It Up” is a personal favorite of mine. It has been associated with my family for a number of years. I am one of the biggest critics of today’s music because I believe a lot of todays acts lack the creativity and sensitivity of say a Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder, and John Lennon so I am fiercely protective of contemporary artist trying to mimic our legends and their work.

Then there is this story…

As the story goes, The Gaye Family lead my Marvin’s son and daughter Marvin III and Nona (an actress and singer in her own right) and Marvin’s ex-wife Jan Gaye sued Pharrel and Robin Thicke for allegedly copying verbatim “Give It Up” for the smash hit “Blurred Lines”. Apparently the jury agreed that and ruled in the favor of the Gaye Family, they will be awarded 7.3 million dollars. Now MAYBE you can argue that the songs sound similar. I think they sound similar not the same. I really do feel that there is a difference between copying directly and being inspired by something. Does not mean you are copying verbatim. Not the same thing. But a jury disagrees with me, who am I to say?
Fast-forward to Nona Gaye after the verdict doing a press conference dressed in all black, with sunglasses on and the crocodile tears saying she felt like she “was now free from the chains that Pharrel and Robin Thicke had her bounded by.” WHAT?? Chains? I’m confused was she held prisoner by these two? Was this a criminal trial? Had her civil rights been violated? Let’s start here then, did she write the song? I wasn’t sure if she was giving a press conference or trying to audition for a role on Scandal or Empire. I hope Shonda Rhimes and Lee Daniels were watching because that was definitely a performance. Maybe they can cast her.
You would think that they would be happy with 7.3 million dollars. I mean hey that is a lot of money. But alas the foolishness gets even more intense as they are now considering going after Pharrell for his colossal hit “Happy” because wait for it they say it’s a direct copy of Marvin’s “Aint That Peculiar”. I have listened to both songs back to back over the last few days and my conclusion is that the Gaye family needs to have several seats and count their 7.3 and call it a day.
I can’t take people seriously….

Cretio Dollar…. Ok. So I am to understand this man of God is asking his congregation to fund a private jet for 65 million dollars. First of all your last name is “Dollar” so the stacks are already against you. Secondly, you are a minister with the last name Dollar. You are asking your church a majority of which are probably struggling financially to fund a jet? A few questions pop up in my mind:

1. Will all the members who pay this money or contribute be able to schedule flights in this jet?
2. Is this in addition to the tithes? What would you even call this? “Flight of Faith” “Travel Ministry Fund”?

Secondly this brotha creates a Go Fund Me Account the same one that small non-profit agencies use to raise like a few hundred dollars maybe even more. You create one for 65 million dollar plane?
I can’t take people seriously….

I won’t go into much detail about my thoughts of our clergy and their income (That is a completely different blog article itself) only to say that I am not opposed to it. A lot of clergy have income from before they started ministries. They are entrepreneurs, business owners and have other sources of income such as their professions. Some clergy are lawyers, some are doctors, and some are accountants. Not all of their money comes from the church and they are not robbing the church. But then you have this fella right here asking for a private jet from his church? It does not help the stigma of rich clergy and it gives a bad outlook on the church, which is unfortunate. Why do you need a plane of this magnitude when you already have one? Your last name is Dollar…
I can’t take you seriously….

Kim Kardashan decides to go blonde. She thinks its spectacular. I think she looks like Val from Knots Landing...

I can't take you seriously.....

There were quite a few observations I made from people in my observations that have not made the news this week, but they get an honorable mention from me. They are as follows:

1. How do you have a Jherri Curl and a Mohawk and your are over 40?
2. You are taking bathroom mirror selfies in the bathroom and we see your dirty draws, nasty sink and tub with the shower curtain pulled back in the background talking about “Haters gonna hate..”
3. You talk about you watching calories but have been at McDonalds and Del Taco Twice this week.
4. You posting pictures of weed on your social media and post naked pictures of people but then go on about how you can’t find a job?
5. In one post on your page, you quote bible scriptures, the next one you quoting Lil Wayne.
6. The media made a big deal that Kim Kardashian uses drug store shampoo.
7. You ran 3 miles around the park by the office in your jogging clothes, then come back in and put your work clothes back on without any water being put on your body.
8. Every one of your status updates is negative and sad or full of profanity but then say “I’m tired of people judging me!”
9. You say racism does not exist anymore, despite all you see on the news.
10. You call yourself a baller because you just cashed your tax refund.
11. You say Scandal, Empire and How To Get Away With Murder degrade African-American women and are negative images… yet you watch Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love and Hip Hop, listen to Lil Wayne, and have “Truffle Butter” on your favorites on Pandora. You also call Karrine "Superhead" Steffans a genius

I can’t take you seriously…