Songs To Get You Through.

As a companion piece to "Why You Worried? I Got You?" These are the songs that I listen to that give me hope. They always put a smile on my face when I am having a bad day or week. Through my tears I go on.  I encourage you to make a mixed CD or put this into your I-pods, I-tunes or personal file. Pull it out when you need it. Pull it out even when you have a good day. Be Blessed!

1. Optimistic - Sounds of Blackness 
2. Be Blessed - Yolanda Adams 
3. Smile - Kirk Franklin & The Family 
4. Ooh Child - The Five Stairsteps 
5. On Your Face - Earth, Wind & Fire
6. Keep Your Head To The Sky - Earth, Wind & Fire
7. Back II Eden- Donald Lawrence & Co
8. I Believe - Marvin Sapp 
9. Hold On - Sounds of Blackness & Roger Troutman
10. Never Give Up -  Yolanda Adams 
11. Be Blessed My Brother - Bishop Paul S. Morton 
12. Aint No Stopping Us Now - McFadden & Whitehead 
13. Someday We'll All Be Free - Donny Hathaway 
14. God Has Smiled On Me - Mary, Mary 
15. This Is It - Kirk Franklin & The Family
16. Look Into Your Heart - Aretha Franklin 
17. Blessed & Highly Favored - The Clark Sisters
18. You Brought The Sunshine - The Clark Sisters 
19. Well Allright - CeCe Winans 
20. When You've Been Blessed - Patti LaBelle

Why You Worried? I Got You!!

On Your Face - Earth, Wind & Fire

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. ⁷ And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.- Philippians 4:6-7 New International Version (NIV)

Really, really reflect on the scripture and the EWF song. It seems like over these last two months, a lot of people are struggling with being somber and sad. What is going on? I know we have a lot going on in our lives but it seems like a lot of people are talking negativity and somberness to a whole new level. Is life really that bad? Sure, my life is not perfect and there things that could be a lot better, but it could be a whole lot worse. What is going on?
First of all it seems like people are really struggling with their jobs. I understand that. I have worked a lot of jobs where I come ,  home stressed, flustered and tired. The work consumed me, I came home and would crashed on the couch, eat, watch television and drift off to sleep. Then I would wake up and repeat the same day, day in and day out. I get that a lot of us deal with hell on our jobs. That is a given. The question is what are we doing to combat that hell? Are we meeting that hell with the armor of God? We constantly deal with people who lie on us, cheat, steal, and scandalize our name. Trust me I have been there. It almost defeated me, but it did not. On your job, you should be able to find one or two things that bring you joy in the workplace. Rather it be a friend you can trust, or some part of your day that you enjoy. Focus on that. Do you pray before you go to work? Pray that God will sustain you and keep you throughout the day no matter what happens. I did that when I was a teacher. I used to call out names of the students I was struggling with. I would ask God to lay his hands on them. It would work that day, the student would be less trouble for me. So if you have a boss, a coworker, student, or customer that is giving you grief, call their name out and God to fix them in your life. Ask God to equip you with the strength to endure with that person. Let God work out that situation in your life. Remember, often times God puts people in our lives good or bad as a vessel to get us somewhere or to teach us a lesson. Listen to him on what he is trying to teach you about that person.
Secondly, what is keeping you from pursuing other interests other career options? Are you doing your calling? This is why I believe a lot of people are miserable at work.  It is because we are not doing what we were called to do by God. We ignore the signs and become afraid to step out on faith and settle where we are. Yet we wonder why we are unhappy in the places we have settled for.
You can do all the denying you want, but if you are just being comfortable, that could be why you are stressed, you are not being fulfilled. Look for that dream job while still praying and meditating at the necessary one. What is stopping you?

Next, we have those people who constantly seek out the worst case scenario. They have sick people in the graves already, refuse to live in joy and cannot understand how others stay happy and joyful in the midst of sickness and strife. They have the attitude that if you are not crying or falling all out then you do not care. They go around the sick and afflicted with bad attitudes and somberness. What they do not understand is that the sick and shut in feed off of that and can pick up on that energy. Something I heard on Oprah during her  final episode was when she was telling the story of a sick woman who could tell the doctors and family were being sad and somber, the woman came up with a saying that I thought was perfect. "Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space." That is a powerful isn't it? If I were sick, I would not want anyone coming around me with sadness and despair. Everyday is a day of thanksgiving and everyday is a day of life. It drives me insane when someone treats the living as if they are dead. Not that you should not prepare yourself for the worse case scenario but how do we know what the scenario is? We have a tendency to speak for God and speak negativity as if we are speaking from God. God does not need a spokesperson or agent. Often, God has a tendency to flip the script on us when we least expect it. God is a god of healing. Healing comes in different forms but he ultimately heals all. I wish others could remember that more.

I know this economy is the tank. People blame the president, blame a party affiliation or a leader. We get so stuck on how bad this country is or the shape that it is in, we often forget about the accomplishments of this country. We stick on the negative, the bad things. Is this really what God wants for our lives? Are we remembering Philippians 4:6-7? It is time to take responsibility for the energy that we bring into this space. We are human, I get that. We struggle with our emotions. I am no exception. I am not saying that you cannot cry. I am not saying that you cannot prepare yourself for the worst case scenario. What I am saying is that when we focus on that and let it consume us, we are forgetting about the peace of God and forgetting about what he has in store for us.

So I encourage each and everyone of you struggling with work, sickness, and any other type of negativity to remember Philippians 4:6-7. Take responsibility for the energy you bring into other people's spaces. The way you feel is always written on your face. Like EWF says, "Sadness bears no remedy for the problems in your life." Lets us move forward. I can hear God, when we worry about tomorrow and focus on our negativity and sadness translating Philippians 4:6-7, "Hey why you worried? I got you. I got you! You my child. You not  gonna be in peril or be cast away. It aint going down like that. I got you!" or "Have I ever left you in harms way? I'm kinda hurt that you don't trust me after all these years. Remember, I got you. ITS ALL GOOD!"

Be Encouraged!

So Grateful for Revelation!!

Sometimes God looks down the road and sees a storm brewing and therefore, he removes you from that situation to keep you out of that storm. You may not understand that at the time, but as you get older and experience life that revelation comes to you. That is nothing but GOD. I look over the last 10 years of my life and am just grateful for the things that have happened in my life good or bad.

In 2004, I was working at a bank. I was promoted to Branch Manager. There were several branch manager positions that came open but I was passed by until finally I got one! I was excited. It was not for anything other then the prestige and social status that came with that. Ultimately, it was a bad decision but a necessary one.  In that position, I was lied on, talked about, and given no support which ultimately led to the termination of my job. I was grateful. It was a very stressful job and it took a huge toll on my health and well being. I was relived but stressed that I lost my job due to lies and two-facedness. However, it was God calling me into another level. He pulled me into teaching, which is what I wanted to do anyway. Well I taught for a few years in the urban school district and loved it but there was also a lot of politics and favoritism within the school district. By my fourth year, I was stressed and overworked as was many of my collegues. I came home and just crashed on the couch. I would watch television, eat, fall asleep, only to wake up to go bed and repeat the same day. Work got overloaded, there was so many papers to grade, so many things to do. Well I  lost my job there too due to a certification issue that I thought was going to be okay. I was promised that I would get to stay another year. GOD had other plans.

When I lost my job, I was depressed. I thought this was what I worked so hard for. I let the devil get the best of me. I felt like a failure and disappointment to everyone who believed in me. It was the devil. When the school year started and I was not there w/ my friends I felt lost. I would sit on the couch and just feel miserable. Then one night I fell asleep on the couch and woke up to Joyce Meyer on t.v. She literally preached to everything I was going through. She mentioned her book Battlefield of the Mind. It spoke to me, I read it and read it, I began to journal write and reflect. It was truly an awakening.  I began to write and write a little more and more. Then God gave me ALL of these ideas. It lead me to the revelation that I could be a great writer, author and speaker. God wanted me to use all of my experiences to write and be an author. I am just grateful for what he has given me now. Now after all these  years, I am relocating to Los Angeles. After 15 years of wanting to do so, its finally here. I am so grateful. I have written my first book and awaiting publication. I have the foundation for several other books, and even an idea for a radio show to spring from this book. None of this would have ever happened had I not had these experiences. I have had some friends turn away because they did not understand and thought I was going down "the wrong path" , I get that but its o.k. It had to happen, I understand why it happened now. And I am moving forward...


The bank that I was terminated from was shut down due to financial failure. There is so much uncertainty there. The school district I was working at is now doing things that I would want to do. People there are more stressed than they have ever been. And ME, God is moving me into my season of favor. I did not do it on my own. It was nothing but GOD. I was not moving fast enough for him, so he made it happen for me. I am the happiest I have ever been. I am so thankful. My season is here! Yours can be too. Don't get comfortable. If you are in a place that you do not like, DO SOMETHING about it. If you have a calling on your life answer it. If you have a dream, make it happen. Do not settle. I have done that for far too long and I refuse to do it again!! Be blessed!! I am!!

The Adventure Begins

Thanks Drew, for motivating me to do get back on here. :-) I will be blogging a lot over the next few weeks as I detail my move to the west coast and pursuit of my dreams. I am looking forward to it. I am leaving Wednesday, September 29th. I will be taking a two day adventure. I will leave from Bonner Springs/Kansas City, KS stopping when I feel the need. I will spend the night in Albuquerque, New Mexico get up the next morning and head into Los Angeles!! Wow..saying it out loud is even more spellbinding! Its amazing. I am so grateful. This has been 18 years in the making and the dream is finally becoming a reality. I hope that all of you will share in this journey with me. I am thankful for all of the encouragement and support. For those of you that have not been so motivating, this is the only shout out you will be getting. Really there have not been any, but inevitably there will be some. You know what you can do, just lift me up in prayer as God lifts me higher and higher. Stay tuned for more updates in the days to come. Follow your dreams and desires, I am following mine. Goodnight. CG2

The Big Move

Good Morning,
First I want to thank EVERYONE for the well wishes and birthday greetings yesterday. I had a great day and my cup was overflowing with blessings and love. That is the greatest thing a guy could ask for.  I wanted to talk to you guys about what is coming up for me and what God is doing in my life.

After much prayer and reflection, I have decided that the time is finally right for me to move on w/ my life and make some things happen. I have decided that at the end of September, I will be relocating to Los Angeles. This should not be a surprise to many of you as many of you already know and know that this is has been in my heart for many, many years. I have wanted to live in California since I turned 18. However, I always found an excuse and stayed here for whatever reason. It ultimately boiled down to me just not being ready. Well God is ready for me to move forward and pursue some dreams and interests. He has given me the gift of writing/media  and educating and that is what I plan to pursue. I am very excited for what awaits me there. I am pursuing some dreams. It has been a difficult two years with some things, I feel like I am growing stagnant a little bit and its time to spread my wings. God allowed me to go through these last two years so that I can get ready for this. He is gearing me towards my biggest blessings now.

I am so overwhelmed with what is in store for me. My dreams are coming true. It has been hard to tell everyone because I know how it is when someone moves away. But in my heart, it just feels right. It is the right time. I am receiving so much confirmation from God that this is what I need to do. I ask for your support and encouragement and most importantly prayer as I do this. I am looking at my target date to move September 26th or the week of. Kansas will always be my home. I will be back quite a bit. I just wanted to tell everyone that I did not get a chance to talk to yet. I thank you for your support, friendship and all we have shared over the years. God bless you.
Also a prop and shout out to those who have left Kansas in pursuit of other dreams and have made it. You are an inspiration to me. (Marla, Evie,Gordon, Michael, Kama and others).

I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for. -Jeremiah 29:10

The Lord said to Abram "Leave your country, your relatives, and you fathers home and go to a land that I am going to show you.  I will give you many descendants, and they will become a great nation. I will bless you and make your name famous, so that you will be a blessing. - Genesis 12:1-3

Thank you Karen, for giving that to me. More confirmation.

Stay Tuned...the best is yet to come! :-)

Men: Do We Still Count?

I am not liking what I see in regards to the role of men in our popular culture these days.

First of all, I am seeing numerous television commercials that show men as weak, insufficient, indecisive neanderthals and women as the domineering controlling being. There are several commercials out there that show men with no control and no say so in how their houses are ran. There are countless commercials that show a man with some domineering woman and he takes it. He will not watch the football game because his wife wants to watch Lifetime. Is this really what marriages and or relationships have been reduced too?

Then if I see ONE MORE show that has some guy with a girl who is completely out of his league so much so that his girlfriend or wife is calling all the shots and that is simply how it is going to be because she is "so smoking hot." WTH? On 90% of the television sitcoms out there right now, the man has NO CONTROL in the relationship. The man/husband/boyfriend and his friends are seen as unfeeling, unthinking, unloving neanderthals with the brain the size of a pea. While it is funny at times, sometimes it has gotten to be just a bit much. Is this what is going on in the homes? It does not bode to well for us single guys who still are looking or NOT looking for that Ms. Right. No guy want's a Ms. Right IN YOUR FACE  all the time.


I am not at all advocating MEN to be dominating and controlling. However ladies, are you really comfortable with a man who:

1. make no decisions in the home, you chose where to eat, where to go on vacation, what he can or cannot buy 95% of the time?
2. with a man who cannot have time with his friends, take time to watch a football game, or buy something with the money that he works so hard for?
3. whom you cannot trust? If you have to check his facebook, twitter, texts or emails, then there is an obvious problem. If he has given you no cause, why are you suspicious? No trusts, no lasting relationship. Work through your own insecurities. Men this coin goes both ways. This applies to you too. No probable cause, then you pause!

And another thing, we just celebrated Valentines Day. I bet a lot of ladies expected for the husband to go all out with the cards, the restaurants, the flowers, and the chocolates. Let me ask you, what did you for your man? Did you give as much as you received? Did you come correct?

Musical Excellence? A 2011 Grammy Wrap Up

Musical Excellence?: A Grammy Wrap Up

Remember that scene from Waiting To Exhale when Angela Bassett’s character went on this tirade at the party, and then all of a sudden she looked up confused and innocently and asked, “What happened to music, I thought this was supposed to be a party?” That is the way I felt the other day when I watched the 53^rd annual Grammy Telecast.

That is exactly what I want to know. What happened to all the music at the Grammy’s? The Grammy’s used to be about celebrating musical excellence in all fields: gospel, rock, rhythm and blues, and bluegrass, country, jazz. I did not see hardly any of that the other day. Instead what I saw was a painful reminder of what has happened to the music industry today.

Think back to the Grammy’s of just a few years ago, when you saw performances that represented each genre of music. You had gospel performances, rock performances, and even sometimes (although as I child I could not appreciate it as much as I do now as an adult) opera and classical music. The show seemed to celebrate celebrity more than musical excellence on Sunday. Lady Gaga, Justin Beiber, and Katie Perry dominated Grammy show. Performances were pretty much limited to who is hot at the time. There were not that many high points of this year’s show. There were a few highlights of this year’s telecast, but other than that most of this year’s telecast was painful reminder of how much the music industry has changed. Remember when the show honored such greats as Stevie Wonder, Fleetwood Mac, Tina Turner, Mariah Carey, and The Beatles? In recent years future legends such as Alicia Keys, Beyonce, Lauryn Hill, Nora Jones, and John Legend dominated the award show. There is something wrong with this: Marvin Gaye in his lifetime only won 2 Grammy’s. Diana Ross, whose contribution to the music industry cannot be ignored, has won a whopping total of zero awards yet Lady Gaga can win five in one night? There is something very wrong with this picture.

From what I have seen on facebook, and various other media outlets, this years Grammy’s were not well received. Reports indicate that this year’s telecast was the highest rated that is has been in the last 10 years. I do not see that happening next year if they repeat the same mistakes they did this year. Here is what the Grammy’s got right and what they got so terribly wrong:

Grammy High Points:

The Aretha Franklin Tribute:

What a way to start the show! You cannot go wrong paying tribute to the Queen of Soul. The video montage of the Queen winning her 18 Grammy’s and performing numerous times shows us all what true artistry and music is supposed to look like. Having great artists like Jennifer Hudson, Christina Aguilara (who redeemed herself from her Super Bowl fiasco), Yolanda Adams, Martina McBride, and Florence from Florence and The Machine pay tribute was the right touch. Then the queen herself making a videotaped appearance from her home in Detroit calmed everyone’s concerns about her health. She looked great! This tribute had me believe that the rest of the show was going to be the same way.

Bruno Mars/Janelle Monee.

A great performance all around! Bruno delivered. He reminded me of a cross between Al Green and Joe Crocker. He has the skills to last more than 15 minutes. Now I may be biased being a fellow Kansas City Kansan and DOTTER but Janelle Monee represented KCK in a major way. She was not trying to do a lot of this or that to be noticed. She is a true performer and has such a charisma and chemistry about her on stage. She connects with the audience very well.

Unfortunately, that is about ALL of the positive I have for this show. The rest of the telecast fell into the

LOW POINTS OR WTH (WHAT THA HELL?) Moments:

Lady Gaga:

I am really, really, really not a fan. Yes she inspires kids to be different, blah, blah, blah.  I am really not impressed with that. It is really like she is doing all of these antics to take away from the fact that her singing ability is average at best. I am not trying to be mean, but I do not understand all of the hype that surrounds her. Her song “Born This Way” as many, many others have said was a direct replica of Madonna’s “Express Yourself. “ She thrives on just being weird. The entire performance was awkward and head scratching at best. Lady Gaga represents what is wrong with the industry today: Do anything to take away from the fact that you really do not have the best singing voice.  I think about some of our other young artist out there such as Alicia Keys, Jill Scott, Carrie Underwood, Jennifer Hudson, John Legend, Kem, and Taylor Swift who do not have to resort to these types of tactics to get noticed. The focus is solely on their voices their natural talent. I am over the Lady Gaga craze. Then her acceptance speech saying she thanks Whitney Houston cause she envisioned Whitney Houston singing that song, I think we all know what Whitney have said to that.

Lack of Awards:

98 of 108 awards were handed out before the Grammy telecast. I think a big reason why people tune into the show is to see the “best of the best” represent in their fields of music. I am not an idiot to not understand that there is simply not enough time to have each award given out and still have performances, but they definitely could have had each genre represented on stage. R&B awards were all but eliminated from the live telecast as was bluegrass, gospel, and jazz.

Justin Beiber/Usher:

The performance was average. Justin Beiber has a lot of potential. But I think he is definitely overexposed at this point. Usher, I expected a lot more from. He is one that I would call a future legend. His performance mirrored Janet Jackson’s “Rhythm Nation”. I am going to give Usher the benefit of the doubt and say that he was trying to let his protégé shine on that night. Usher is capable of giving us so much more. There needs to be a definite game plan to give Beiber some longevity and not just focus on being so commercial and pop.

Lady Antebellum Tribute to Teddy Pendergrass:

This is kind of a catch 22. If it was Lady Antebellum who decided to do the tribute it was honorable to try, but if the Grammy’s decided to just have some random group pay tribute then it was an insult to Teddy’s legacy when you had John Legend, and other soulful crooners in the audience who would have given TP much more justice and give him the kind of tribute that he truly deserved.

Lifetime Achievement Award Rush:

Normally the Grammy’s will give a little bit more of a tribute to the lifetime achievement award recipients than just saying all of their names at once like they did last night. Usually, presenters would recognize all of the recipients before they present an award or that would just be their sole focus. For all of those artists who have paid their dues to get this type of award and them to just get some random 2-second call out to me was an insult to their musical contributions. The Dolly Parton tribute with John Mayer, Keith Urban, and Nora Jones was awkward too. Not because of the three talented artists giving it, but because it was rushed to a point that it was just uncomfortable. It was totally devaluing the talents of Ms. Parton and the three talented presenters. If time is an issue, maybe the Grammy’s should do like the other musical award shows like Soul Train Awards, Oscars, Golden Globe and focus on giving ONE Lifetime Achievement Award a year.

Rhianna:

I am really not trying to be viscous or mean, but is Rhianna the ONLY one that rappers can find to do musical collaborations with. I am not a fan of hers as well. She is all over the place. Her voice is just not doing anything for me. Its very nasally and whiny.

The Ezperanza Spalding/ Justin Beiber New Artist Controversy:

I believe the award is called Best New ARTIST. Artist is somebody that has really made a splash on the music industry because of his or her raw showmanship, artistry, and gift of song. I have to admit I was surprised that Spalding got it, but not upset. She truly deserved it. Beiber needs more time to develop. He is a teen artist/icon but his musical showmanship is not there yet. He is not a young Michael Jackson or Little Stevie Wonder. Rarely is a the New Artist award given to someone so young. Beiber fans were not being too tactful or gracious by being rude to Ms. Spalding while she was accepting her award. That was in bad taste. That was her moment. If Beiber develops himself as a musician a little more and really develops that and not just focus on being so commercial, he will have more time in the future to win awards.

In The Middle: Not Sure How I Feel Moments:

Cee-Lo Green Performance:
I am going to give Cee-Lo an A for effort. He was trying to do something different. However, I found it as a cross between Toucan Sam, Elton John, and George Clinton. It was just maybe too different for me. I do like the song and I appreciate Cee-Lo’s humor, I just do not know if I would call this the best performance of the evening. I am still not fully understanding the Gwenyth Paltrow portion and why she came out to sing on the song.